i had this..i used to give more importance to people rather than myself..that way I would end up troubling myself a lot for other people’s sake..thats bad because you cant keep others happy till you are happy so don’t try to be god..just be a normal human being.
An Aesop fable
A man and his son were once going with their Donkey to market. As they were walking along by its side a countryman passed them and said: “You fools, what is a Donkey for but to ride upon?”
So the Man put the Boy on the Donkey and they went on their way. But soon they passed a group of men, one of whom said: “See that lazy youngster, he lets his father walk while he rides.”
So the Man ordered his Boy to get off, and got on himself. But they hadn't gone far when they passed two women, one of whom said to the other: “Shame on that lazy lout to let his poor little son trudge along.”
Well the Man didn't know what to do, but at last he took his Boy up before him on the Donkey. By this time they had come to the town, and the passersby began to jeer and point at them. The Man stopped and asked what they were scoffing at. The men said: “Aren't you ashamed of yourself for overloading that poor Donkey of yours—you and your hulking son?”
The man and Boy got off and tried to think what to do. They thought and they thought, till at last they cut down a pole, tied the Donkey's feet to it, and raised the pole and the Donkey to their shoulders. They went along amid the laughter of all who met them till they came to Market Bridge, when the Donkey, getting one of his feet loose, kicked out and caused the Boy to drop his end of the pole. In the struggle the Donkey fell over the bridge, and his fore-feet being tied together, he was drowned.
“That will teach you,” said an old man who had followed them:
“Please all, and you will please none.”
Well, so the best thing is to keep yourself happy..dont agree to do someone’s work if it makes u overburdened or unhappy because anyways you won’t do it properly then.dont give your commitment a higher priority than yourself..because you matter first and then your commitment..this way you may end up getting gaalis from some people but atleast u’ll be happy and anyways you’ll get sum gaalis(*&#*$#$&*#@#*) so why not get them for your happiness..