happiness recipe

Anne had said to Marilla once, "I believe the nicest and sweetest days are not those on which anything very splendid or wonderful or exciting happens but just those that bring simple little pleasures, following one another softly, like pearls slipping off a string."
this is a line from one of my favorite books...anne of green gables series..i had forgotten dem and just read abt dem on sum1 elses blog...
wat has been said above is so true..small thngs give you so much happiness..which we dont get from big successes also..and blessed are those who can appreciate these small pleasures...
so i decided to look at my day today to weigh my happy moments and sad ones..
sad
1) i did a veryyy stupic blunder in my xam which cost me 12 marks..very very stupid mistake..
2) one of my friends hurt me in jest almost making me cry..
happy
1) my hostel tshirt came out..nd i went studying to the liby wearing it:D:D
2) i finished studying my course at 1100 and d xam was at 1430:D
3) i liked the dal today for lunch
4) i read an arbit person's blog, liked it and found out tat she had written about my fav book
5) i checked out that the liby has some novels that i have to read in summers
6) and i enjoyed writing this blog..

now, tho the things i am happy about may seem to be trivial..but they do outweigh my sad parts of the day...tho the sad parts seem more serious..hence proving the fact a nice day is defined by small pleasures rather than huge successes..
so u got ur small pleasure of reading my blog already today:D:)
be happy:)

don't let life lead you..lead your life..

there used to be a time when i used to crib a lot..a lot means a lot..now i have reduced considerably..because of a recent realisation..tat there is a way by you can make everything you do in life fun..everything can be made interesting..its upto you..
infact even a quiz or assignment can be made very exciting to do..a challenge..just depends on your perception..on your attitude towards it..
whenever i am in a slightly sad mood i start analysing it and realise that its up to me to be happy or sad..sumthng tat always helps me to improve my mood is good music..nd just the thought that i should learn to be happy by myself..and i think i have learnt it a lot..whenever you feel like crying or feel sad, just get up , wash your face, put on good music and get busy doing something..i dont think you can't resist bad moods if you want to..
also a funda which i developed..everything that happens to you is because of you..there is no luck factor..somewhere or the other its your fault or your good efforts' results..so no point cribbing that life is unfair as its in your hands to make it better..and if you're losing time cribbing..well then suffer..
i guess this is a bit harsh..but really helps me to be happy..
as the heading says, dont let life lead you..lead your life..

dreamz...

i met this lady ranjani saigal at PAN IIT in decmber..she was an IITB alumni, civil engg batch 1981..i heard her giv a talk in one of the series of lectures and den decided to interview her..just remembered the talk so writin dwn something interesting she said..

• it is surprising that in todays world the sitauation of women is as such..in villlages and even loads of families in urban areas, they are still looked down upon as those who can only handle the house..surprising that men donot trust women's capabilities inspite of the fact that when God was distributing portfolios he gave the most important ones to women..namely lakshmi, finance..saraswati, education...shakti, defence..
• this lady is someone who went on to perfom a show in which she depicted DNA structure through bharatnatyam..an unheard of culmination of tech and cult..it seems the person who sponsored the show said"i dnt understand your concept but since you're an IITian i am sure whatever you do, you'll make it a success..so im givin u d money"

talkin to her made me feel that we have such a huge platform which is IIT to do whatever we want in life..its a waste not to use it to follow our passions..as for me..my passion is writing...and im tryin my best to work on my writing these days..i started writing for insight, write in my job and have now proposed the starting of a department newsletter too..
sumday maybe u all wil read a book by me[:d]..hehehe..

changed perceptions..

flying high in the sky..
majestic..king-like
large wings..
strong legs..
powerful talons..
keenly watching its prey..
looking to capture..win..fight.....


lifeless..
still..
defeated..
humiliated..
lying dead on its back..
beauty lost..
breath gone..


(i just saw a dead eagle in our wing...gave me the feeling that everthing dies one day..however strong you may think it is..however you try to fight..someday fate will defeat you..)

you can't please everyone

You know lots of people have this ailment..”not being able to say no to people”..
i had this..i used to give more importance to people rather than myself..that way I would end up troubling myself a lot for other people’s sake..thats bad because you cant keep others happy till you are happy so don’t try to be god..just be a normal human being.

An Aesop fable
A man and his son were once going with their Donkey to market. As they were walking along by its side a countryman passed them and said: “You fools, what is a Donkey for but to ride upon?”

So the Man put the Boy on the Donkey and they went on their way. But soon they passed a group of men, one of whom said: “See that lazy youngster, he lets his father walk while he rides.”

So the Man ordered his Boy to get off, and got on himself. But they hadn't gone far when they passed two women, one of whom said to the other: “Shame on that lazy lout to let his poor little son trudge along.”

Well the Man didn't know what to do, but at last he took his Boy up before him on the Donkey. By this time they had come to the town, and the passersby began to jeer and point at them. The Man stopped and asked what they were scoffing at. The men said: “Aren't you ashamed of yourself for overloading that poor Donkey of yours—you and your hulking son?”

The man and Boy got off and tried to think what to do. They thought and they thought, till at last they cut down a pole, tied the Donkey's feet to it, and raised the pole and the Donkey to their shoulders. They went along amid the laughter of all who met them till they came to Market Bridge, when the Donkey, getting one of his feet loose, kicked out and caused the Boy to drop his end of the pole. In the struggle the Donkey fell over the bridge, and his fore-feet being tied together, he was drowned.

“That will teach you,” said an old man who had followed them:
“Please all, and you will please none.”

Well, so the best thing is to keep yourself happy..dont agree to do someone’s work if it makes u overburdened or unhappy because anyways you won’t do it properly then.dont give your commitment a higher priority than yourself..because you matter first and then your commitment..this way you may end up getting gaalis from some people but atleast u’ll be happy and anyways you’ll get sum gaalis(*&#*$#$&*#@#*) so why not get them for your happiness..

relish life

Relish life
In this fast paced world of competition, we are so busy running in a rat race that we have forgotten how to live life. We are so busy doing this and that, fretting to meet deadlines, working overtime to earn that extra rupee that we have forgotten the purpose of all this. This is where we are going wrong and giving a wrong impression to the future generation that money is everything. I recently read Lee Iacocca’s autobiography in which he has stated that however busy he was in his life at Ford, he always tried his best to take out the weekends for his family. He went on to express that you are a failure as a manager if you can manage such heavy schedules but not find time for family life. How true! What is the point of achieving tremendous success if you can’t find time for your own little pleasures?

Think deeply. When was the last time you sat and watched the rain for a few minutes? When was the last time you cooked something special with pleasure? When was the last time you had a cup of coffee or tea with relish? When was the last time you spoke to yourself? When was the last time you took your spouse out for dinner? Can’t remember?

Well, that’s not surprising. In facing the bigger problems in life we tend to forget the smaller joys. We don’t need to be rich to encash these joys. These are ours, just waiting to be relished. Next time you come out of your office and its raining, don’t rush to your car, get a little wet. Take your spouse out some evening. Sit and watch the rain someday while sipping your tea. As someone rightly said- life is an ice cream, enjoy it before it melts…